Cincinnati is full of gay people. Full. Of. Them. Gays and lesbians operate at every level on the community, from the bartenders at your favorite Clifton pub to doctors and lawyers in downtown firms. They cook your meals. They connect your calls. They tell you that you look fat in skinny jeans. It’s just like Fight Club, but with gays.  

Dear Amanda, It was nice talking to you at Cadillac Ranch Friday night. It was kind of a weird place for a straight person like myself to be out socializing. You know, with the hundreds of gay people who showed up with Guerrilla Queer Bar. That's why I appreciated your forwardness when you told me I was cute and asked me if I was gay.  

Considering the last 40 years of the gay rights movement is complicated. American society has come a long way, as evidenced by the numerous states that recognize gay marriage, the increasing protections gays have secured through legislation and the increasing success of reality TV shows about designers. (Thanks for the exposure, capitalism!)