"Nigga you crazy if you don't know/ Every woman in the world ain't a freak." — "Pussy Control" by Prince There is power in the Pussy. Guttural, but true. Women have used it since the advent of the Pussy itself. Think about it: Why in the world was Adam so gungho to taste the forbidden fruit? He was swayed by the thought (and inherent power) of tasting Eve's forbidden fruit.
But the ultimate in Pussy Control has got to be Bill Clinton and fill-in-the-blank. Why else would a president risk the power of his office and the trust of his constituents to get a blow job while behind the presidential desk in the Oval Office? And I don't care what Clinton maintains — he shagged Monica Lewinsky. He probably thought copping to oral sex wasn't as bad as admitting to full-frontal sex.
However it came down, Clinton was just one of countless men beholden to the Pussy. Men succumb to it every second of every day.
If this all sounds too harsh or too stinky for you, then you're in denial about the harsh and stinky reality of everyday life. There are people who treat their lives and those of the people they supposedly love like a crapshoot, betting it all on the Pussy.
Why Pussy and not vagina, love oven, Venus mound, snatch, twat, kitty, sugar walls, hot box, velvet gold mine, quim, trim, poontang, poonanny, leg, the lower lips or the final frontier? Because Pussy is how we talk. It's what people say on a regular basis. All that other stuff is either too clinical, too comical or too Penthouse Forum.
Pussy, the organ and the ideal, not only has power but comes with responsibility. For generations, parents have been lax in explaining the ins and outs of the Pussy to their children. Any parent's concerned about the future of their family will deconstruct the importance of the Pussy to their daughter and their son.
A delicate balance, however, must be attained. For example, you can't admonish your male child to be weary of certain types of Pussy without stressing to your female child the importance of not abusing the power of Pussy.
This is crucial, because once a woman knows just how powerful her loins are, she must behave responsibly. She should never withhold sex as punishment. That's immature and demeaning to herself. It says that she sees herself as little more than a sexual object who can't reach a compromise without introducing sex as a bargaining tool.
Nor should she ever think with her Pussy or wear it with esteem as, say, a man does his penis — fondling it in public, adjusting it recklessly and nonchalantly or assuming that it makes the woman, as men have for years defined themselves by the prowess of their penises.
A Pussy is what it is: It's the beginning of life and what makes life more enjoyable for all who enter.
And that's where trouble starts — entering the entrance. The one reasonable and lucid thing my former stepfather ever said to me was that when a man enters a woman, it's explosive. Explosive.
Men — gay and straight alike — never want to admit how attached they are to the Pussy, but they are. They will risk everything — marriages, houses, jobs, children, hell, the fate of the world — for just a taste, a few seconds to backstroke in warm glory.
Though it might seem a bit like pop/closet psychology gone bad to say it, gay men are attached to the Pussy, too. Even the butchest of gay men glean their feminine mystique from the women who most molded their aesthetic, be it a hovering mother, a fussy aunt or a diva of a grandmother. And, like it or not, gay men at their gayest most resemble the thing they love to loathe, and that's a woman with a Pussy.
And don't think it's all about sex. Sex, you see, should be merely the period at the end of the sentence that, until the final seconds prior to consummation, has stated all the important things that needed saying.
Sex comes at the end. Sex is a wordless conversation that shouts what you've whispered all day. Sex is overrated and quite necessary.
Ultimately, the Pussy is more than what it's used for, because it's an icon for control and peace. So use it and don't abuse it.
Just remember who has it, because she who uses it well isn't a freak. She's a powerful woman.
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